Are you a control freak? I am sometimes. I know better. Still, I do try to control things more than I should. I think that's a common problem for many humans. I know it is for us frogs. Controlling the world around us is futile and fruitless. We wind up spinning our wheels in the mud. Trying to control the uncontrolable can leave us feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and depressed. We are never in control, not really anyway. One you acknowledge this and let go, the easier it is to become "one with the universe" and feel more at peace. It isn't easy, though, to release control and trust in the universe when you're a conrol freak. But here are some ways that I found to be pretty helpful.
Embrace Helplessness. That sounds awful, doesn't it? No one likes to feel helpless or powerless. The truth is, that those moments of helplessness can be powerful and transformative. Sometimes, when we are up against something too big to face alone, the best thing to do is nothing. Surrender to it. When you can voluntarily let go, it can actually feel empowering and not at all like giving up. Try it the next time something becomes to much to bear; just give up and ask universe for help.
All you need is LOVE. The Beetles are famous for saying this in one of their most popular songs. It's really true, though. "Love is the force that moves the entire world." I read that recently and I believe it. Lifestyle coach, Leo Carver, tells us that in order to tap into the power of love, we must first understand how it works. He says, "Love is grace. Love is helping. Love is caring and sharing. Love is disciplining when destructive behaviors arise. Love is tolerance and understanding. Love is always there if you just tap into it." I know I need to try to be more of a loving influence on the frogs, and humans, in my life. How about you? Are you a loving influence on all those you encounter? When we become that loving influence, we can watch our life fall into place...easily, and all without any control or influence from ourselves...It works just like magic.
Release what you cannot hold. If you're like me, you probably live your life from a place of reaction. Our sense of control depends largely on how much 'of a handle we think we have on things.' Enlightenment follows when you release your sense of control. Many teachers have told me this...over and over...but I've been too stubborn to listen. I think that I am now starting to get it, though. Better late than never, as they say. I find that I am far less controlling than I used to be. I am learning that the unknown is more favorable than my own tight control I have on life. It feels pretty awesome, really, to pass that power on to someone/something else. Power and perfectionism can be exhausting work! But the universe has broad shoulders and can handle it.
Observe nature. Lao Tzu once said, "Nature doesn't hurry, yet everything is accomplished." Just look at how rich and bountiful nature is. Nature doesn't struggle to make it so. It just is. We may feel like strangers here on earth, but "you and your life are no accident. The entire universe has conspired to give you experience," Mr. Carver reminds us. We are part of the universe and it helps and guides us...just as it does nature. So why not let it do its job? Quit interferring!
Show gratitude. I don't need to say much on this subject. By now, I think we all are aware that gratitude is transformative. The more you're grateful for, the more you receive. It's that's simple.
Increase your self-awareness. Watch your thoughts. Observe them, but don't necessarily listen to them. Our minds can make us do crazy things. By observing our thoughts, and not acting on them, we can grow beyond our limiting beliefs. Our minds can, and do, trap us. Learn to move beyond your restrictive thoughts. When we move beyond our thoughts and let go of the details, it paves the way for universe to step in and take over. Trust that everything is OK. Because it is.
Listen to your intuition. Your intuition is your personal GPS. If you listen to it, it'll guide you effortlessly to where you want, and need, to go. It's available 24/7. To access it, we simply need to be still and let it speak. And don't let your thoughts interrupt! They can be very rude sometimes.
Acknowledge life's grace. Everyone has suffering. It can't be avoid. To live, is to suffer at some point. Don't try to avoid suffering, because you can't. What you can do, when times are painful, is look at how you handle your "lumps." Do you want to whine and complain? We already know that doesn't help. So, isn't it better to move through your pain with elegance and refinement..with your head held high? How we handle life's disappointments, pain, and difficulties can either make or break us. Shouldering our burdens makes us strong. We can serve to be an inspiration to others. Or we can become defeated and cave in. We always have options. I know which one I'd choose....
Seek oneness. Take a real interest in getting to know who you are, what you do, what you stand for, how you live your life. Put some effort into living your live with intention. Don't sit passively and watch it go by. Unifying your inner and outer life builds strength and character. We can feel disjointed when the two aren't in sync; when we do one thing, but say something else. A life divided doesn't instill in us either faith, or confidence, that we are wonderful just as we are...imperfections and all. We don't need to be perfect. We don't need to control everything. If we're fine, just the way we are, then isn't everyone else fine, just the way THEY are, too? Sure they are!
Fear and control arise from uncertainty of the unknown. Embracing change and learning to trust something greater than ourselves can give us the security that we desire. But without the hassle, frustration, and disappointment that inevitably happens when we try to control the uncontrolable.
Embrace Helplessness. That sounds awful, doesn't it? No one likes to feel helpless or powerless. The truth is, that those moments of helplessness can be powerful and transformative. Sometimes, when we are up against something too big to face alone, the best thing to do is nothing. Surrender to it. When you can voluntarily let go, it can actually feel empowering and not at all like giving up. Try it the next time something becomes to much to bear; just give up and ask universe for help.
All you need is LOVE. The Beetles are famous for saying this in one of their most popular songs. It's really true, though. "Love is the force that moves the entire world." I read that recently and I believe it. Lifestyle coach, Leo Carver, tells us that in order to tap into the power of love, we must first understand how it works. He says, "Love is grace. Love is helping. Love is caring and sharing. Love is disciplining when destructive behaviors arise. Love is tolerance and understanding. Love is always there if you just tap into it." I know I need to try to be more of a loving influence on the frogs, and humans, in my life. How about you? Are you a loving influence on all those you encounter? When we become that loving influence, we can watch our life fall into place...easily, and all without any control or influence from ourselves...It works just like magic.
Release what you cannot hold. If you're like me, you probably live your life from a place of reaction. Our sense of control depends largely on how much 'of a handle we think we have on things.' Enlightenment follows when you release your sense of control. Many teachers have told me this...over and over...but I've been too stubborn to listen. I think that I am now starting to get it, though. Better late than never, as they say. I find that I am far less controlling than I used to be. I am learning that the unknown is more favorable than my own tight control I have on life. It feels pretty awesome, really, to pass that power on to someone/something else. Power and perfectionism can be exhausting work! But the universe has broad shoulders and can handle it.
Observe nature. Lao Tzu once said, "Nature doesn't hurry, yet everything is accomplished." Just look at how rich and bountiful nature is. Nature doesn't struggle to make it so. It just is. We may feel like strangers here on earth, but "you and your life are no accident. The entire universe has conspired to give you experience," Mr. Carver reminds us. We are part of the universe and it helps and guides us...just as it does nature. So why not let it do its job? Quit interferring!
Show gratitude. I don't need to say much on this subject. By now, I think we all are aware that gratitude is transformative. The more you're grateful for, the more you receive. It's that's simple.
Increase your self-awareness. Watch your thoughts. Observe them, but don't necessarily listen to them. Our minds can make us do crazy things. By observing our thoughts, and not acting on them, we can grow beyond our limiting beliefs. Our minds can, and do, trap us. Learn to move beyond your restrictive thoughts. When we move beyond our thoughts and let go of the details, it paves the way for universe to step in and take over. Trust that everything is OK. Because it is.
Listen to your intuition. Your intuition is your personal GPS. If you listen to it, it'll guide you effortlessly to where you want, and need, to go. It's available 24/7. To access it, we simply need to be still and let it speak. And don't let your thoughts interrupt! They can be very rude sometimes.
Acknowledge life's grace. Everyone has suffering. It can't be avoid. To live, is to suffer at some point. Don't try to avoid suffering, because you can't. What you can do, when times are painful, is look at how you handle your "lumps." Do you want to whine and complain? We already know that doesn't help. So, isn't it better to move through your pain with elegance and refinement..with your head held high? How we handle life's disappointments, pain, and difficulties can either make or break us. Shouldering our burdens makes us strong. We can serve to be an inspiration to others. Or we can become defeated and cave in. We always have options. I know which one I'd choose....
Seek oneness. Take a real interest in getting to know who you are, what you do, what you stand for, how you live your life. Put some effort into living your live with intention. Don't sit passively and watch it go by. Unifying your inner and outer life builds strength and character. We can feel disjointed when the two aren't in sync; when we do one thing, but say something else. A life divided doesn't instill in us either faith, or confidence, that we are wonderful just as we are...imperfections and all. We don't need to be perfect. We don't need to control everything. If we're fine, just the way we are, then isn't everyone else fine, just the way THEY are, too? Sure they are!
Fear and control arise from uncertainty of the unknown. Embracing change and learning to trust something greater than ourselves can give us the security that we desire. But without the hassle, frustration, and disappointment that inevitably happens when we try to control the uncontrolable.
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