The hardest part of creating ourselves is, probably, discovering what it is that we want to create. What is the vision we have for ourselves and our future? Someone once said that if we can dream it, we can create it. And, for the most part, I do believe that this is true. But how do we create the "me" that's waiting to emerge? The first step is discovery; discovering what it is we want. Sometimes this means that, first, we have to discover what it is we don't want. For many of us, I think we know the things that don't make us happy. We learn through trial and error. But we never seem to take the time to discover what exactly it is that brings us fulfillment. Doing this can mean putting ourselves into some vulnerable situations; trying out new things and meeting new people (or frogs). These things can make us uncomfortable but that is, unfortunately, how we learn what's good and what isn't.
The second step is focus. This means focusing your attention on your end goal. Trimming off "the fat"...those things that really don't contribute to your end goal can save you time and aggravation as you go along. We each will need to continue to grow throughout this process, as we create our futures, but we can do it now in a more focused way. So keep your eyes open to all the possibilities.
The last step is embodiment. Be the frog (and human) you want to be. And do it with confidence. Exuding confidence allows others to see you for the you that you want to be. No shrinking violets here! It can also be helpful to become a resource for others who are on their own journey to self-creation. Teaching others what you've learned can be good for them, as well as for yourself (think karma).
This is, certainly, an over-simplified explanation of how to create the person, and the life, you truly want. The big take-away here is that we can all do it. It isn't hard. It just takes time and attention. The hardest part is figuring out what it is you want. If you've already done that, congratulations! You're already a third of the way to achieving your goals. And if you're like me, and still trying to figure out what you want out of your life, never fear. Learning to pay attention to your natural skills and abilities, as well as the things that you are passionate about, will lead you on your way.
Spring is approaching. And with spring comes new life and new opportunities for growth and renewal. I'm excited for my future. I hope you are, too!