Frustration occurs in situations when either a person or a frog, becomes blocked from reaching a desired outcome. Lately, I've been very frustrated about several situations ocurring in my little world. I wanted to know more about frustration, and to best overcome it. I hope what I've learned will help you, too!
Although it doesn't seem it at the time, frustration isn't always a bad thing. it can be a useful indicator of the problems in your life; as a result, it can be a big motivator to change. But, when that frustration ends with anger, irritability, stress, and depression, we wind up feeling hopeless...with a feeling of resignation. And that never feels good.
Frustration results in that nagging sense of disappointment...that we can't reach our goal; that we're wasting our time. Frustration hurts our self-confidence. External frustrations, that which is caused by things like traffic snarls and long lines, are unavoidable. We can solve many of those daily irritations easily; finding a new route to drive...or chosing a different resaurant. Accepting these irritations, however, is key to moving forward. But what about those internal frustrations? They aren't as easily solved, but they can be fixed.
Sometimes, the solution can be simply giving up. This can actually be helpful, if the goal is truly out of reach. Better to give up rather than feel depressed or angry that you can't reach your goal. A new better, attainable goal awaits. Often, relaxation and exercise can be helpful when one is frustrated. It releases tension, lowers stress, and helps to clear our mind...leading to a solution we might not have thought of otherwise. We need to learn to control our frustration, or frustration will control us! Another way to overcome frustration, is to acurately assess your abilities to alter your troubling situation. Once you know where your strengths lie, you become better equipped to formulate an action plan.
Frustration can be devastating and deadening, but knowing that you are strong...and believing it...can go along way in helping you cope. For me, I believe that my strength is a "can do" spirit. One way or another, I always seem to land on my flipper. That, for the most part, gives me the courage to persevere through the difficult time. That, and a good swim in the swamp!
Life is filled with disappointments and frustrations. But we needn't let them rule our life. Without the bad, we'd never know what good times were. Troubles and hurts help to mold our character. I know that I can become a better, stronger frog each time I triumph over a problem that appears hopeless. But it's not hopeless and neither are we. So, as my father is fond of saying, "Let's pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and move forward with a smile. Life is good....even when it's bad." And I believe it!